Dr.Kadwa/ Dr.Reva seek ur help..bed wetting and behavioral problems in 6 year old

Patient: Girl aged 6 years


Problems and Personality:
Bedwetting with emotional / psychological / behavioural problems: It started from last one and half year. she stopped wearing diapers from age of 2.5 and use to wake up even in the middle of night if she had to pee but now for more than one year she is struggling with bed wetting.. At times she is in such deep sleep that she doesn’t get to know anything at all.

In general she is a very emotional and sensitive child, very clingy to her mom; wants me to be with her all the time (I am a working mom), she is jealous of younger cousins and friends if I shower love on them. She is crying and whining mostly all the time. She is very moody.. at times she is an angel trying to please me and making me happy. But at times she becomes very bossy, angry and shouts and screams without any significant reason at all. She is very rude to family and friends in general. She is generally defiant, doesn’t listen to anyone, always says no to everything we tell her to do. Most of the time she is crying and whining without any reason except when I am sitting with her and hugging and petting her or when she is playing. Anger and jealousy are predominant emotions and I feel she lacks compassion. When she is angry or upset she pouts, makes bad faces, shouts, yells and cries. Then goes to her room and start playing with her stuff. Good thing is she never throws or harms her stuff.

At school she is extremely sharp, very good in academics and listens to her teachers but during class activities she wants her way and is not very considerate about her classmates. One of her teacher’s major concern is that despite knowing everything she is not able to reply or speak up when required. At the age of 4 she was doing so many extempore and speeches for her age in play school but now she has become quiet and nervous.

Earlier whenever she use to go out to attend any party or play dates with her friends she use to be extremely soft, polite and followed proper etiquettes. I always use to get gushing compliments on how well behaved she is, which was a little strange for me as she was different at home. But now I am afraid even that is changing. She is causing lot of embarrassment even in front of outsiders.

She is very lazy and gets tired very easily. Further she is very reluctant to try anything new. it’s a challenge to start anything new with her.. she is very cautious doesn’ t like adventure.. but if im with her she feels safe and is ready to do anything e.g. she will take all rides in amusement parks and water parks if I am with her and she will be thrilled and shouting and enjoying.. but when she went for her school camp she didn’t do even basic stuff.

Also she is very artistic and her illustrations are too good for her age. She is really fond of drawing and music and is very good at both. On stage she is a natural performer and she never had any stage fear. But as she is growing she is turning to be very shy and reserved. At times she won’t even greet the guests or even reply if someone asks her anything. Earlier she was initially reserved but then used to open up and enjoy. Now it’s becoming extremely worrisome.

Very strange thing about her since infancy is that she plays a peacemaker between two people when they r fighting or arguing. If I am having argument with her father she will immediately intervene and with all her charms win us over to solve the problem. She hates conflicts and shuts her ears if music is loud or there are any crackers (though she herself screams and shouts whenever she wants)

When did this problem begin?
All her behavioural problems except bed wetting were there since she was 3-4 years. She was very fussy and always a difficult child as a toddler but all the problems have aggravated since last 1-1.5 years. Bedwetting might have started when she changed her school. Everyday she is becoming more and more difficult to handle with.

Also I believe the most difficult circumstance of her life would be when she was a baby and I use to go for work. Somehow this has affected her as a baby/ toddler. She could not cope up with it and she still has that fear of separation. Even now she cant sleep without me and I can not travel out of town.

Aggravations:
Bedwetting aggravates while travelling or when she is scolded or she is sad. Her general symptoms get aggravated with hot and humid weather. She is sad, gloomy, frustrated, cries and whines if weather is hot. In winter she is comparatively pleasant. Her bad behaviour gets aggravated if I tell her to behave with her friends or ask her to share anything with her friends or cuddle or hug any other kid (she is only child). She is on fire, starts shouting yelling crying. She is just out of control (jealousy).

Sleep pattern
She falls asleep very quickly. She prefers to sleep on her left. The first part of night she is having sound sleep. The other half she is restless and tossing/ turning in the bed. At times she will wake up in the midnight and start talking for a while before going off to sleep again. She is usually happy when she wakes up and also happy before sleeping (as I have to sleep with her in her bed). She hugs me tightly while sleeping and wants to sleep on my arms all night as she doesn’t want to let me go. Opens her eyes while sleeping to check whether I am there.

Thermals:
She is a warm person. Body and limbs are generally warm. Sweats a lot specially head and face while sleeping. Has pungent body ordor also. She loves cold weather.. She cant stand heat. Her mood is really bad and gets very cranky in hot and humid weather. She wont cover herself while sleeping. She loves beaches, swimming and to play with water.

Lazy and unorganised:
Standing position is most uncomfortable for her as she is a very lazy girl. Though she loves to play sports but otherwise when she is not playing then she is very lazy. She was recently asked in the new session what you liked and what you didn’t like about new class. She wrote she is not liking that the class is on second floor and same she is telling us everyday how much she is hating that class is on second floor now.

She is not at all organised. She is never able to find anything as she doesn’t keep anything at right place. All her stuff is lying here and there. But she doesn’t break or lose anything as she loves her stuff. She forgot one of her crocs at a beach, she missed them for many days. All her stuff is intact always even though not in its place.

Physical Appearance:
She is very tall so looks 8-9 yrs old though she just turned six. also she is chubby in comparison to all her peers.

Fears:
She is not really afraid or scared of anything. Except when she is watching TV and there is anything dark or war she gets uneasy. May be a little bit fear of dark though she easily sleeps with lights off.

Food and thirst:
She is a very fussy eater. She doesn’t eat fruits at all. Cant even touch them or sit with them on the same table. She likes to eat sweets and ice creams. Also likes rice. She doesn’t have much of a thirst. We push her for drinking water but she doesn’t drink much. She would prefer to drink cold drinks and shakes.

Health History
Medications already given
i. Lycopodium: Around 3-4 months back. Bedwetting disappeared instantly but came back again after 2 months more fiercely.
ii. Calcarea Carb 200: 2 doses. Gave for weight gain.
iii. Sulphur 200: Didn’t notice much change.
The classic trio was given by a homeopath. It worked wonders initially but bedwetting came back. She had one more problem of burning sensation while passing urine and white discharge that has disappeared for almost 4 months now. But the psychological/ behavioural symptoms I didn’t notice much change except a little open ness after lycopodium but that also didn’t sustain.
Further she is very prone to cold and flu. Catches them frequently especially when season changes. Also in monsoon since she was a baby she gets these big bumps on her arms and legs after mosquito bites. This doesn’t happen in any other months except july/ august every year. Its been a pattern for 6 yrs now. She is also constipated many number of times and passes stool 4-5 times a day. Its like rarely she is able to pass out stool in one go.
Family Medical history: Paternal side has a family history of diabetes and cancr and maternal side has family history of TB, diabetes and cysts.

I strongly believed she has most of the mental symptoms of lycopodium and lyco helped as well on few aspects. But I am also confused with pulsatilla. seek help and guidance of esteemed homeopaths here on this forum so that my daughter can be healed gently. Many thanks for taking out time and helping me.
[Edited by serenity2906 on 2018-08-21 08:17:36]