Genital Herpes - Is petroleum best for me?

I used the find remedy tool & only petroleum came up. Should I try it with another remedy? Here's my situation: I'm 51 yr old female who is going through menopause. I've had herpes type 1 & 2 at least 30 yrs or longer with no symptoms until the last 3 yrs. Then I started getting a mild ob below (I had 2 look really hard to see a single papercut like sore) that lasted maybe 2 days but never more than a week. It occurred almost monthly with my menses. The ob below is usually around my anus & has progressively gotten worse-with more areas on both sides of my anus, but mostly on left. I also feel a throbbing like pain on the left like in my vagina or inner thigh-like nerve damage? Now it lasts 2 wks, burns badly & itches so bad I scratch myself almost raw! My Obs are mostly around my anus. For decades I never got an ob on my lip (face). Now I get a tiny pimple on above my top lip, or a lesion somewhere on my bottom lip. As a child I suffered with allergies to feathers, dust, pollen, & bad skin disease- exczema, raw behind my ears & on scalp. I think I'm host to most of the herpes viruses.I've had chicken pox & measles as a kid. I got pityrias rosea when I was 18. I've always had cold hands & feet. I'm very sensitive to temperature. I can't stand being hot or cold. I have a SUPER sense of smell although I talk nasally. I have been disoriented at times 4 no apparent reason when driving. I was diagnosed with Raynauds 5 yrs ago, but recently it got really bad. My fingers turned dark from knuckles to fingertips. I had shooting pains mostly in hands but other parts of my body too which stopped when I started drinking essiac tea last month. I'm divorced I've been through a lot of sadness & stress in my life. I'm much happier since being divorced, I want to marry again but I don't want to tell anyone about my condition-that's why I've been trying to heal myself-which I believe I can do. I told a man once about my herpes & he tried to blackmail me into marrying him & threatened to tell ppl. So the only thing I'm really unhappy about is having H & the fear of telling a partner or infecting him. A naturalpath Dr. put me on herbs & I've taken colloidal silver, but I'm still suffering. Oh-my knees crack whenever I bend them & I don't perspire much under 1 of my arms. I can't remember if its the same arm yrs ago that I had a cyst under. I almost needed surgery but Dr. put me on antibiotics & it went away. He said it was stressed induced - true since I was going thru a nasty divorce at the time. I stopped wearing antiperspirants (except for big events which arent often). And I seem addicted to salt & choc. I drink a lot of water. My skin is beautiful. That's everything. I hope it's enough info for somebody to suggest a remedy. Thanks!