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To be more specific, here is what happened:
For about 3 weeks after taking the remedy, I had extreme self-loathing and despair, and couldn't stand to be around anyone. It has mostly passed but having seen that it's hard to un-see it, and it hasn't been replaced by anything.
After that I started feeling lonely and wishing I could interact with my co-workers in a friendly way, but I knew it was impossible so I just cried about it a lot. Now I've gone back to being cynical but maybe it's sour grapes.
I have emotional pain throughout my whole body. It's like a physical pain but the tone of it is like heartache. It's like a raw feeling as from a scrape, and kind of a burning and a heaviness. It won't go away, it just stays there. Consolation is hard to find.
I still can't speak or look people in the eye etc. I think I have more of a desire to be near people, or at least it has become more intolerable to me to run away, because then it's like I'm being buried or something. But I am still ashamed of my condition, and I also have a fear that the more I allow other people to witness it, the more it will be reinforced, because then it will exist in their minds too and it will become stronger, and then it becomes more insurmountable as it becomes the way it is in the collective consciousness. I feel like I have to battle all of that singlehandedly, and just saying a few feeble words is not going to do it. And I feel like it is a battle of wills because people seem to want to paint me into this role. I think that actually has some truth to it but I don't know how much. I don't want this anymore, I want more room to move, but I don't know how to even begin to fix it.
For about 3 weeks after taking the remedy, I had extreme self-loathing and despair, and couldn't stand to be around anyone. It has mostly passed but having seen that it's hard to un-see it, and it hasn't been replaced by anything.
After that I started feeling lonely and wishing I could interact with my co-workers in a friendly way, but I knew it was impossible so I just cried about it a lot. Now I've gone back to being cynical but maybe it's sour grapes.
I have emotional pain throughout my whole body. It's like a physical pain but the tone of it is like heartache. It's like a raw feeling as from a scrape, and kind of a burning and a heaviness. It won't go away, it just stays there. Consolation is hard to find.
I still can't speak or look people in the eye etc. I think I have more of a desire to be near people, or at least it has become more intolerable to me to run away, because then it's like I'm being buried or something. But I am still ashamed of my condition, and I also have a fear that the more I allow other people to witness it, the more it will be reinforced, because then it will exist in their minds too and it will become stronger, and then it becomes more insurmountable as it becomes the way it is in the collective consciousness. I feel like I have to battle all of that singlehandedly, and just saying a few feeble words is not going to do it. And I feel like it is a battle of wills because people seem to want to paint me into this role. I think that actually has some truth to it but I don't know how much. I don't want this anymore, I want more room to move, but I don't know how to even begin to fix it.
LisaX last decade
Someone I care about said some devastating things to me and now I feel like I've been knocked all the way back down. It all seems futile. Is there anything I can take which will neutralize this blow? All the symptoms are worse again.
LisaX last decade
Hi Lycopodium, thanks for writing again. I did try the EFT, but it seemed to be focused mostly on acceptance, which to me feels like giving up. I like homeopathy because it seems like it creates openings. It's just that it hasn't opened up the right place yet. Yes, I am a religious person, and I believe everything has a purpose. But what happened is that I just got burned out on pain, and I know that my nerves can't take any more, so the self-preservation side has kicked in. I have become stubborn. The 8 years of my marriage almost destroyed me, and when my husband went away it was such a relief. Now I am just going to keep knocking at the door that I want to go through until it opens. Persistence has to eventually pay off even though it has been years and years already.
It's like there's some paradox I'm trying to figure out involving other people. Since you said you think you have Asperger's, you would probably understand that. I don't think I have Asperger's but I basically might as well. It's something else equally debilitating. Not everything that goes wrong with people has a name yet.
That's the limit of my expressive ability for today. Thanks again for writing.
It's like there's some paradox I'm trying to figure out involving other people. Since you said you think you have Asperger's, you would probably understand that. I don't think I have Asperger's but I basically might as well. It's something else equally debilitating. Not everything that goes wrong with people has a name yet.
That's the limit of my expressive ability for today. Thanks again for writing.
LisaX last decade
The only thing that matters is overcoming this problem. That's my main dream in life, and it always has been. I want a taste of freedom before I die. I don't mind the pain because it's only an indication that something is wrong, so it's a healthy response to an unhealthy situation. It seems like it only gets worse, because I'm never able to forget about it. I have strong responses to these remedies but I think I'm just sensitive to them because they throw everything into turmoil for a few weeks and I think maybe it's clearing stuff out and it will get better, but then it just returns to normal. There hasn't been anything for a long time that felt like a real breakthrough, and some of the things from the past that felt like breakthroughs have worn off now. I can feel the remedies working on some kind of metaphysical energy level, but it's never anything I can use in the real world so it ends in disappointment.
For a while after taking the last remedy, I wanted to be around people even though I couldn't speak to them, so my desire for company temporarily overcame my shame over my condition, but I got disillusioned all over again as I realized that wasn't really company since there is no contact. I am not equipped to live in that world, so I pull everything inside, where it gets all cramped and can't move. And there is the feeling that what is hidden doesn't really exist, like the tree that falls in the forest and doesn't make a sound.
I want to keep trying, because to give up is to die. I need to believe that the remedy is still out there somewhere, because I know I don't have the strength to do this in my present state. I need something that will give me more strength.
Please tell me what to do next.
For a while after taking the last remedy, I wanted to be around people even though I couldn't speak to them, so my desire for company temporarily overcame my shame over my condition, but I got disillusioned all over again as I realized that wasn't really company since there is no contact. I am not equipped to live in that world, so I pull everything inside, where it gets all cramped and can't move. And there is the feeling that what is hidden doesn't really exist, like the tree that falls in the forest and doesn't make a sound.
I want to keep trying, because to give up is to die. I need to believe that the remedy is still out there somewhere, because I know I don't have the strength to do this in my present state. I need something that will give me more strength.
Please tell me what to do next.
LisaX last decade
Ok, I'll give it another try. It's very hard for me to relieve tension, and I think I even cultivate it deliberately for some reason. I think because I hyperfocus on things, which is a tense state of being.
LisaX last decade
Ok another out of the box idea,
http://www.hominf.org/swan/swanfr.htm
Let me know what you think. The main ideas of being an outsider, isolation, being trapped, being rejected, are very strong in this remedy.
Do you associate well with it ?
http://www.hominf.org/swan/swanfr.htm
Let me know what you think. The main ideas of being an outsider, isolation, being trapped, being rejected, are very strong in this remedy.
Do you associate well with it ?
sameervermani last decade
Yes, the mental part of it sounds very much like how I feel, although there are things that I wish were mentioned that are not. What potency should I take?
LisaX last decade
I have parasitic insects. I don't know what to do, because if I poison them, I would also be poisoning myself, plus I was wondering whether that would be suppression. Is there a safe way to get rid of them?
As for the swan remedy: There is no breakthrough yet but there is a change in the way I see the past. Maybe it could still extend into the present.
As for the swan remedy: There is no breakthrough yet but there is a change in the way I see the past. Maybe it could still extend into the present.
LisaX last decade
Hi Lisa,
What parasites do you have ? Please provide details about the symptoms associated with that too.
Sameer
What parasites do you have ? Please provide details about the symptoms associated with that too.
Sameer
sameervermani last decade
If this symptom has come back from taking the remedy, that is a very good sign since you had suppressed it 15 years ago.
Please do not use any creams this time.
I cannot comment on your son's case without additional details.
Please do not use any creams this time.
I cannot comment on your son's case without additional details.
sameervermani last decade
When did you take the 200c dose ? Do you feel changes are still happening from that dose ?
Yes, you can start a separate thread for your son. Any detail you can give about him would be useful. You may also pick one of the questionnaires flowing around on this website and fill it.
Yes, you can start a separate thread for your son. Any detail you can give about him would be useful. You may also pick one of the questionnaires flowing around on this website and fill it.
sameervermani last decade
I have gone through your case study and in my opinion you start with Thuja 10m one dose and after a week Arg.nit 200 one dose daily for 7 days. let me have the report if you go accordingly after month.
Bharat
Bharat
kakku47 last decade
Lisa,
I hate the thought of you and child going around
with head lice. They are not same as suppressing
some parasite!!
They are very common for kids to pass them back and forth from school
and playing with each other etc. Once they get in your hair they are
awful and lay eggs, you have to use head lice shampoo, and then
go sit in sun or well lit area and pick the Nits ( eggs ) pull them off the hair-
this must be done perhaps several times. And you have to wash
everything in entire house, sheets, bedding, blankets, throws etc in
hot water -
My kids got them several times from other kids, and my house
was 'spotless' and so were all the neighbors houses -so once you
get them you may have to go thru this entire process of shampoo,
pick out nits stuck on hair- they are very tiny like micro glue things,
wash everything- and do this till they are gone.
Just like having ants or bugs in the house- you get rid of them Asap.
Even the schools where I live would send out bulletins about head lice,-
like someone in 4th grade has them so everybody check and do what has to
be done- and we would get one of these a few times a year. Do not go
around with these things- that you or child ' caught' from whoever or
wherever. I was horrified when I saw them in my kids hair-anyone can get
them. Please take care of it- you and child are passing
them on-when he goes to school he will get sent home.
Yes if you have gotten health up to some high level
bugs etc won't be attracted to you- but most
people are not at that level- which is why this is
common sense and schools are aware of this problem-
it is a public health hazard.
[message edited by simone717 on Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:04:17 BST]
[message edited by simone717 on Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:06:03 BST]
I hate the thought of you and child going around
with head lice. They are not same as suppressing
some parasite!!
They are very common for kids to pass them back and forth from school
and playing with each other etc. Once they get in your hair they are
awful and lay eggs, you have to use head lice shampoo, and then
go sit in sun or well lit area and pick the Nits ( eggs ) pull them off the hair-
this must be done perhaps several times. And you have to wash
everything in entire house, sheets, bedding, blankets, throws etc in
hot water -
My kids got them several times from other kids, and my house
was 'spotless' and so were all the neighbors houses -so once you
get them you may have to go thru this entire process of shampoo,
pick out nits stuck on hair- they are very tiny like micro glue things,
wash everything- and do this till they are gone.
Just like having ants or bugs in the house- you get rid of them Asap.
Even the schools where I live would send out bulletins about head lice,-
like someone in 4th grade has them so everybody check and do what has to
be done- and we would get one of these a few times a year. Do not go
around with these things- that you or child ' caught' from whoever or
wherever. I was horrified when I saw them in my kids hair-anyone can get
them. Please take care of it- you and child are passing
them on-when he goes to school he will get sent home.
Yes if you have gotten health up to some high level
bugs etc won't be attracted to you- but most
people are not at that level- which is why this is
common sense and schools are aware of this problem-
it is a public health hazard.
[message edited by simone717 on Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:04:17 BST]
[message edited by simone717 on Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:06:03 BST]
♡ simone717 last decade
sameervermani last decade
I don't know if Sameer has ever had head lice, but combing them
out- you have to use a lice comb that you get with the shampoo.
But unless you get all the nits on the hair shafts there will be
more hatching and then more getting on the clothes, the sheets,
the blankets and on and on-I had a friend help with the nits
bc my kids had a lot of hair- we spent several afternoons
out in the yard going thru strands of hairs -till finally they
were all gone.
out- you have to use a lice comb that you get with the shampoo.
But unless you get all the nits on the hair shafts there will be
more hatching and then more getting on the clothes, the sheets,
the blankets and on and on-I had a friend help with the nits
bc my kids had a lot of hair- we spent several afternoons
out in the yard going thru strands of hairs -till finally they
were all gone.
♡ simone717 last decade
Ok, thanks everybody for the advice.
Sameer, why such a high potency to start with? I happen to already have a bottle of that exact remedy laying around that I bought on a hunch once but didn't take it because I'm being an obedient patient. But it is 200c. Will that do for now, or are you very sure that I need the 1m?
Where did you find information about the remedy? I searched the web and didn't find anything at all. What symptoms does it fit?
Sameer, why such a high potency to start with? I happen to already have a bottle of that exact remedy laying around that I bought on a hunch once but didn't take it because I'm being an obedient patient. But it is 200c. Will that do for now, or are you very sure that I need the 1m?
Where did you find information about the remedy? I searched the web and didn't find anything at all. What symptoms does it fit?
LisaX last decade
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